Ed Lover Asks: Please STOP Saying "Good Black People."

A New Jersey Mayor Is Criticized For Comment About Good Black People

June 11, 2020


Who qualifies as a good Black person? What are the guidelines to fall under the "good Black person" category? 

As the Executive Producer of a morning show in the third largest city in the country, being able to impact different races with relatable and educational topics is a main goal; to understand what Black, White, Latinx etc. people want to hear doesn't come easy for a young Black millennial woman from Kentucky. I write all of this to make a statement: that I have to (in an unbiased way) understand what all races want to hear, but sadly I have been told on several occasions to my face by White people that I am a "good Black person," that I am not like those "other Black people," or "you're not ghetto, thank God." And every time someone confidently repeats "good Black person" to me, a part of my soul cries and cringes with disapointment but I can't get angry, simply because that's just how that other person was raised. Is it because I speak proper english or have an education? Is it because my parents were the only Black home owners on the block where I grew up? Again, what are the guidelines to fall under the "good Black person" category? 

The first time I heard the phrase "good Black person" was from my manager at my first job in high school.  I proudly worked the drive-thru at Long John Silvers, and my manager, who happened to be White woman, adored me and was fascinated by how quick I could operate the drive-thru and make hella hush-puppies when the chef needed a smoke break. She had this incredibly hot son who had just graduated high school and was quote "single and ready to mingle." One evening as we were closing the dining room, my manager took it upon herself to ask me if I would like to go on a date with her son, and me - knowing how hot he was, of course I said yes. She then proceeded to look me in my eyes and say "...that's great! My son doesn't really date Black girls, but you're 'one of the good ones,' you're not like, a n****r or whatever" with a smirk on her face. 

I was able to be calm in that moment and respond accordingly, simply because that was not the first time someone called me that word. Obviously, I quit the next morning and started working at my NOW 20+ year side-passion, a roller skating rink (hence my affinity for old school hip-hop). 

The Ed Lover Morning Show decided to tackle the topic of a New Jersey mayor saying that he stands for Black Lives Matter, but only for "good Black people" and this triggered me to write and share this post as a Black woman working in media trying to eduate the masses how to communicate effectively with other races. Listen below to our discussion on why White people should NOT say "good Black people."  Just to be honest, the phrase can be processed in the Black mind as "at least you're not a n*****."